Inspiration

A New Year’s Tale

January 1, 2024

by Walter Oden

“George! George!  Get over here.  I want you to hear something!”  Silence was followed by another voice.

“What?”

“George, I need you to hear something right now!”

“Ok, ok. Give me a minute.”

Another round of silence filled the void.

“OK.  What do you need John?”

“Come over here and listen to this!”

Suddenly, the silence was replaced with the sound of a single acoustic guitar. 

“That is what you wanted me to hear?  Isn’t that a little rough?  I mean, it isn’t very good.  It sounds like a beginner?”

“George, it’s a kid learning how to play guitar.  Give him a break.  Don’t listen to the quality of play, listen to the notes and chord progressions.  Can you hear it?”

George leaned over and looked at the kid playing and saw it was a young man under a single lamp in his room.  He had a beginner chord book opened and  was struggling to transition between chords. 

“Hmm, I think I hear what you are talking about John .  Did he just accidently play a C Ad 9 instead of the G Major he was trying to play?”

“Exactly!  He doesn’t realize that accidental chord combinations are part of the process of songwriting!”

“Honestly John, you are one different animal.  George chuckled, “You always were by the way.  You could see and hear things we never could.”

“George, I always saw you the same way.  That’s why I called you over!”

“Ok John, what do you want to do with this?  Should we give him some inspiration?”

“Yes George!  He doesn’t know his potential.  He needs an injection of inspiration to stick with the guitar.  He has to push through the early years to be able to believe he can create.”

“John, are you ever going to rest?  It is not your job to police all up and coming world talent.”

“What else am I going to do?  Don’t you still pick up your guitar every day?”

“Yes John, I get it.”

Just then, a man with a southern accent entered the room.

“Boys!  I see you found one!  Are you going to give him inspiration?”

Both George and John’s faces lit up. 

“How are you Buddy! John and I haven’t seen you in so long!”

“Why have you been such a stranger Buddy?”, said George.

“Well, you know.  Time just flies by here.  The past, present and future all seem to be the same. It’s easy to lose track of time, but I am so glad to see you both.”

John smiled and said “I guess this must be pretty funny to you.  I think you were having the same conversation about our miserable instrument play.”

Buddy sat down and smiled.  “Yes, you guys were rough.  Yet, from up here I could see your potential.  You had each other which helped.  Although there was a risk that all that bickering was going to end your collaboration before it got really good!”

George laughed.  “That bickering wasn’t our fault.  It was Paul’s!”

They all busted out laughing.

Buddy stood up and said, “Well, let’s all send our inspiration to this young man.  Then, we can all watch what comes.”

Suddenly, a whole bunch of people started appearing in different corners of the room. 

Buddy Holly, John Lennon, and George Harrison all looked up.

Chuck Berry chimed “You boys ready to jam?”

Little Richard, Elvis Presley, and Roy Orbison all started smiling while instruments appeared in their hands.

Tom Petty and Prince just sat there observing in the corner.

A whole bunch of instruments started playing with what sounded like a sound check at the symphony.

Carl Perkins yelled over to Dennis Wilson “How’s the surf been? I still find it strange how only one beach boy actually surfed!” 

Another burst of laughter filled the room.

“Perfect break every day!”, then he laughed, and a drum set magically appeared.

Phil and Don Everly chirped “Are we going to play or what?”

John sat in front of a microphone and said,

“Ok, ok.  A one, two, three…four”

As the best out of this world jam session began, the sound suddenly was replaced by that little boy.

The same unclean acoustic chords got a little better.  He suddenly had an inspiration.  As he started playing a chord progression he realized that he was on to something.

He stopped, picked up his guitar and ran down the hall.

“Mom, mom!  Listen to this!!!”

Epilogue

Buddy Holly

If consciousness is eternal, so is time.  The past, present and future all exist simultaneously.

John Lennon

What is inspiration?  More importantly, where does it come from?  Is it a random brain event or something more cosmic?  Scientists debate the connection between conscientiousness and the quantum world.  Our cosmos is filled with over a trillion galaxies.  Each of those galaxies is equally filled with billions and billions of stars and planets.  This same cosmos has what we call black holes where nothing can escape their gravity. 

George Harrison

Human history is also connected with rich religious traditions.  Are we on the precipice  of finally merging historical religious beliefs and science?

Chuck Berry

Therefore, why not ask the question about inspiration?  Are world changing ideas things that already exist in the universe?  Could true inspiration just be information just waiting to be received by the correct conduit?

Carl Perkins

More importantly, how do these ideas become reality?  Humans that receive this inspiration are not always aware of the significance of their epiphany.  Inspiration is more than an idea.  It is a potential idea with a sprinkling of motivation, obsession, belief, and passion. 

Dennis Wilson

I often wonder how many great ideas are conceived and let go.  This is because the recipient of the inspiration may not believe it’s a good idea or it isn’t worth the time to pursue it.  They might not believe in their abilities to take a concept to completion.

Everly Brothers

Wouldn’t it be cool if another worldly consciousness has a role in really inspiring moments?  How would we know?  What would be the signs? 

I wish everyone an inspiring 2024!

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The Happiness Project – Part I

George Baily and Family

How to quantify and gain awareness of your personal happiness

by Walter Oden

Prelude: 

I am generally a very happy person.  Yet, I have had some really low times.  We all face challenges in our lives. These challenges test our outlook on life.  Sometimes lows overshadow the highs.  I have been waiting to post on this topic for some time now.  I never seemed to find the right time.  I decided I would publish at a time I was REALLY HAPPY.  I also think I was nervous.  We are always wary when sharing some deep feelings.  Every holiday weekend is a time of reflection.  This weekend was no exception.  I thought about my dad often.  Yet, I really did have a wonderful weekend with my family.  Alas, happiness has motivated me to write about happiness.

Introduction

I originally wrote this article on New Year’s Day of 2012.  I actually shared it with a couple of friends at that time.   My dad was approaching the end of his life.   I was in a pretty dark state.  He had reached Advanced Parkinson’s Disease at that point.

I recently saw a poll result on general “Happiness”.  The report indicated that the average happiness of people was dropping dramatically.  One theory was that we are becoming too “technology” focused.  My theory is that “pressure” was taking over our lives.

Why Happiness is Important

Ask any parent what they want for their children.  Most will answer “I want them to be happy”.  What about your own life?  How do you want to breathe your last breath?  We have all seen the quotes describing what we will be thinking when we get older. They all have the same theme.  You will never say “I wish I spent one more day at the office”.  End game happiness is the goal. If we can learn how to do it, we can teach our children.  Then we will fulfill our mission.

New Year’s Resolutions

I make the same New Year’s resolution each year; Focus on happy.  This may sound like a cliché.  On the other hand, who hasn’t become a big cliché?  I am considered to be a “Tweener” by many.  I am not talking about the tennis shot between the legs.  A “Tweener” is term used around social circles to describe a state in your life.  If you have  people OLDER and YOUNGER relying on you for their well being, you are a TWEENER.  You also understand the special pressure that goes with this label.

My History

I have a beautiful loving family and my health.  I have a job I value.  Yet, the years of pressure from my dad’s health, debt, the economy and shear work load has added up.  In fact, it has robbed me of pleasure over the years.  It has robbed me of enjoying what is really important.  I have even occasionally described myself as unhappy.

Being weighed down by negatives is probably what is called “clinical depression”.  Do you see problems as bigger than they really are? This kind of negative stress has a big impact.  It affects you, your family and everyone around you.

My dad’s illness first became prevalent about seven years ago.  The first “hit” was when he lost everything he owned.  That became the least of our issues.  We were fighting so hard for his well being.  We wanted any glimpse of hope.   He lost his fight during January of 2013.  During his decline, I felt helpless most of the time.  Stress + Helplessness + Money Woes + Responsibility and you get one giant ball of unhappy.

Yet, I am going to hypothesize a strange concept; Unhappiness is a mirage.

Why do the Project?

I would try to go see my dad in the nursing home for long visits about once per week.  On other days I would pop in and out.  I was always guilty I couldn’t be there more.  He told me on New Year’s 2012 how “unhappy” he was.   During our visits it was very hard to focus on any positives.  My dad had not come to terms with his plight.  He was also very aware of what is coming.  My dad had dementia that kept getting worse.  He was very scared.  If I tried to bring up the past, he resisted it.  This was his defense mechanism.  It was almost like if he remembered the past, he got more depressed.  He wished it was the past and it wasn’t.

A Call to Action

And now for another cliché.  How do we live in the “now”?  Do you have a habit of waiting for things to happen to you?.  Are you always looking for that change that will make you truly happy?  Could more money or a better house make you happy?  Maybe, but not necessarily.

Yet, if we don’t get to happy right now, we’ll miss it.  That is because happy isn’t a moment in timeIt is time itself.  Having “time” is what happy is.  My dad was out of time.  He didn’t have much happy left.  He missed the opportunity to embrace his time when he was happiest.

I don’t want to get to the end of my life and say “I guess what I used to have was happy”.  I missed it.  I don’t want to ignore what is happy.

The Concept

I was trying to conceptualize this plight in the last couple of years.  I wondered if happiness was simply a state of mind.  I wondered if it was a state of awareness.  Could I be happy and not see it?  It reminds me of the movie It’s a Wonderful Life.  You go through life and can’t realize how lucky you are to be you.

Ernie and Bert

By the way, I included the imbedded link above to also answer a favorite trivia item of mine.  Ever wonder how the characters Ernie and Bert from Sesame Street were developed?

So I said to myself “I wonder if we can define happiness in something that is NOT SUBJECTIVE.  How could we create a definition of “Happiness” in terms of something that is totally OBJECTIVE.  Could I take a math approach to happiness?  How about an accounting approach to happiness?  Could I tally things and record them on a balance sheet?  Could I create the financial statements of life?

The project

I am about to show the reader why I quit being a CPA.  I have to explain some basic accounting to the reader.  It will take you about 3 seconds to pass out with boredom.  Please trudge through it, it matters.

Basic financial statements include a Balance Sheet and Income Statement.  The Balance Sheet lists all your Assets, Liabilities and Owner’s Equity (Sometimes called Retained Earnings).

The Income Statement (Sometimes called the P&L) is a picture of income and expenses during a given time period.  That period is usually a calendar year.

This concept has not changed in accounting in a hundred years.  Even Ebenezer Scrooge understood this.  Although, his accounting methodologies included slave labor that took food out of the mouth of Tiny Tim.

If you are still awake, you may be asking why do we need to know this material?  The answer is what I call the “Happiness Project”

George Baily & Newton Falls

Getting Started – Your Balance Sheet

We need to build financial statements to your life.  We will begin with a Balance Sheet. Start by listing all of your assets.  These are not just things you OWN!  These are things that are positive to your life.  Some examples include:

1) A wife that loves me

2) Three very different kids that love their dad.

3) Own a home

4) A job I like

Then you need to list your liabilities.  These are the things that are potentially negatives.

1) Debt

2) House has huge flaws that can only be fixed with lots of money

3) Job requires long hours that take away from my family

4) Father in nursing home with incurable disease.

5) Wavering belief in higher power/purpose

Finally, you need to list what positives or negative you NET after your years.  That is the statement of retained earnings

1) Fairly youthful looking from years on tennis courts

2) Home is worth more than I owe from years of paying mortgage

Your Current Year – The Income Statement

Now we need to build an Income Statement.  This will require daily recording of Income (Things that make you happy) and Expenses (Things that block your happiness).  You need to religiously record this data every day for 30 days.  Record everything that made you happy, especially the simple stuff.

Monday

Income

1) Kids came running to door yelling “daddy!” and attacked me .  They squeezed me dragged me inside.

2) Had more than (3)  beers in the fridge

3) Great dinner waiting on stove top

Expense

1) Got into a conflict with co- worker today

2) Cash flow went negative today

3) Leak in pipe in basement appeared today

Working list and results

It is impossible to create all these statements in one sitting.  Our subconscious does an incredible job blocking things out.  You may be adding to your balance sheet as you develop your income statement. That is totally fine.

Analysis of your statements

You can have a good year or bad year (income statement).  The key is to focus on the income.  Why?

This is YOUR HAPPINESS PROJECT summarized!

Take all the INCOME items you listed for 30 days.  Put them on a single sheet. That list is your roadmap to happinessIt’s kind of like how you value a business.  Sometimes, you just want to know how much revenue the business earns each year.

Happiness is a cumulative conglomeration of happy moments all rolled up into a single ball.

This project forces you to be aware of your happy moments.  Happiness does not guarantee a life devoid of unhappiness or negatives.  In fact, the key to this project is being able to accept negatives and SEPARATE them from the HAPPY.  Focusing on the happy, is merely a matter of getting organized.

Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind

This movie starred Jim Carrey,  Kate Winslet & Kirsten Dunst.  It got mixed reviews.  I thought it was brilliant.  The premise was that we had invented a way of erasing memories.  In fact, you could erase any BAD memories and eliminate your sadness.  The movie created a hypothesis through its story.  A person’s happiness is eternally linked to all moments in your life.  Eliminate the unhappy and you risk eliminating the happy.

Life experience, much like our income statement, includes both Happy and Unhappy moments. Our project allows you to focus on the happy without ever “erasing” the lessons learned from the unhappy.

Conclusions & Part II

This project will NOT add happiness to your life.  This project will not eliminate sadness or disappointment.  The bigger plan is to make you aware of what you already have.  That happiness is a state of mind.  It is a state of awareness.  We can either choose to be happy or not be happy.  I am choosing happy.  We will explore methods for improving your financial statements of life in PART II.

Dad on Wedding Day

My Dad in 1968

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